...Not the stupid You Tube stuff but 4 Real Ways!
The LOUD Girl Movement Team has been pondering the idea of self-love and a lot of LOUD Girls also sent self-love as one of the things they wanted to build within themselves, so we came up with a cute love list (since we are celebrating self-love during February and March) of ways to really love your Self.
1) Make a practice of doing the things you say you will do for yourself so you can build trust and love in Self. This is some of the best advice I’ve ever received.
Scenario: A young girl has a parent who she does not live with who promises to pick her up every weekend, yet without fail they never come. As a result, the girl loses faith in that parent.
Just like the young girl lost faith in her parent over time, we lose faith in ourselves when we don't keep promises to ourselves. And you guessed it, when we follow through and do what we say we will do for ourselves, we gain faith in ourselves, and as a result we build more love for ourselves within.
2) Stack your LOUD. This is when you thoughtfully process all the times your voice, or your LOUD served you – a concept I discuss extensively in my new Ebook, LOVE YOUR LOUD at WORK (coming soon).
As LOUD Girls, even though we know our voices are the bomb, we still silence ourselves and second guess the value of our contributions (hey we are human). However, stacking your LOUD is a great way to help you remember that your voice is amazing.
Get out your phone, iPad, or a pen and a notebook, and add notes about times when your voice has gotten you to where you are, how it’s helping you get the results you want now, and how it could help you achieve future goals. Whether it’s relaying to a lover how you really feel; speaking up at that meeting; or telling a family member you’re no longer willing to tolerate certain behaviors - using your voice is a tool to help you live your best life. So, remember that by stacking that list.
3) Use your LOUD as a positive vibration to support, assert and reinforce your beliefs; and to manifest beauty and joy into your life. There’s a whole science to the power of positive vibrations that has been practiced for thousands of years in the form of mantras, prayers and more.
There’s a popular scene in “What’s Love Got To Do With It” where Jackie (Vanessa Bell Calloway) introduces Tina Turner (Angela Bassett) to the Buddhist chant, Nam Myoho Renge Kyo (also known as Daimoku of the Lotus Sutra). In that scene she tells Tina Turner “When you chant, you can see things things clearly, it’s like life’s mirror. And when you can see yourself clearly you can change anything.” This is a truth that Tina Turner has stood by and continues to follow in real life because she knows, by experience, how the vibration of that chant changed her for the better.
So create or find mantras that reflect who you really are and build and maintain a frequent practice of using your LOUD to positively affirm the power of those mantras.
4) The most liberating thing you can do is to stop caring about what people think about you. It’s something I really got into during 2018 and have continued to do and it has caused me to take more risks (no matter how I look - because remember I don't care how I look), that have resulted in success and growth. It kills feelings of shame and embarrassment totally and it allows you to be free and fearless in who you are.
These are just a few ways to love your LOUD but loving your LOUD is a practice in self-love and it’s a whole lifestyle. We’d love to hear the ways you practice self-love, so drop us a message via Instagram, Twitter or email us at info [at] loudgirlmovement [dot] com.
LOUD and all,
Thysha and The LOUD Girl Movement Team